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How to raise good children

When I talk to parents about what they want to accomplish with their parenting, a large majority of them say that they want to raise “good” children. This begs the question – What, exactly, does a “good” person look like? For many of us, a good person is one who demonstrates behaviors that psychologists call “prosocial.” READ MORE
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Santa Claus: How and When Children Discover the Truth

The belief in Santa Claus – and its inevitable demise – represents a turning point for our children. It also represents a turning point in our parenting. Once they are able to see through this impossible story, they are on the road toward adolescence and adulthood. It’s time to loosen the reins, and move from direction to guidance. It’s time to begin adjusting to the eventual arrival of our empty nest. READ MORE
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Sex and marital satisfaction: A symbiotic relationship

Women in particular experience increased sexual desire when their spouses engage in positive behaviors (e.g. saying “I love you,” offering nonsexual physical affection, expressing approval, offering compliments) and decreased desire when their spouses engage in negative behaviors (e.g. dominating conversations, expressing anger, impatience, doing something to purposefully annoy her). READ MORE