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Your core negative beliefs are a lie

Wednesday, February 14, 2018 Dr. John D. Rich Jr. 0
The practice of mindfulness is an attempt to identify the core negative beliefs that each of us holds, and then to reject them and challenge them. You are not the person those beliefs say you are. You are more than what you were told, or what you heard. It is time to “put away childish things.” How liberating! READ MORE
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Big Little Lies: How abuse can run in the family

Thursday, January 11, 2018 Dr. John D. Rich Jr. 0
If you haven’t watched Big Little Lies  yet (which I think you should), you might want to do so before reading this article. I am not holding back on discussing the show in its entirety, even though my primary focus is on domestic violence, and I don’t want to give anything away if you’re planning on watching. That said… READ MORE
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How to raise good children

Wednesday, December 20, 2017 Dr. John D. Rich Jr. 0
When I talk to parents about what they want to accomplish with their parenting, a large majority of them say that they want to raise “good” children. This begs the question – What, exactly, does a “good” person look like? For many of us, a good person is one who demonstrates behaviors that psychologists call “prosocial.” READ MORE
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Santa Claus: How and When Children Discover the Truth

Wednesday, December 13, 2017 Dr. John D. Rich Jr. 2
The belief in Santa Claus – and its inevitable demise – represents a turning point for our children. It also represents a turning point in our parenting. Once they are able to see through this impossible story, they are on the road toward adolescence and adulthood. It’s time to loosen the reins, and move from direction to guidance. It’s time to begin adjusting to the eventual arrival of our empty nest. READ MORE
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Sex and marital satisfaction: A symbiotic relationship

Wednesday, December 6, 2017 Dr. John D. Rich Jr. 0
Women in particular experience increased sexual desire when their spouses engage in positive behaviors (e.g. saying “I love you,” offering nonsexual physical affection, expressing approval, offering compliments) and decreased desire when their spouses engage in negative behaviors (e.g. dominating conversations, expressing anger, impatience, doing something to purposefully annoy her). READ MORE
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The art of parenting: A parable

Wednesday, November 15, 2017 Dr. John D. Rich Jr. 0
Read, study, ask questions, practice, try new things. Spend money and time creating experiences. Do everything you can to watch and learn. You can’t just replicate what your own parents did. Every parent, including you, has room for improvement. READ MORE