This is the troubling truth and the potential blessing of parenting – without reflection, your parenting is likely going to look just like your own childhood. If your childhood was happy and blissful, you’re likely going to pass on the legacy of positive parenting that you were gifted. If your childhood was traumatic, you’ll likely pass that on as well. READ MORE
I believe that our world will be that much greater when we are allowed to act how we authentically feel, based on our decisions about what is right for us in our current context. Conversations about the decoupling of sex and gender, and of gender and sexual orientation, are a big part of how we can move closer to that better world. READ MORE
When I was growing up, after my father lost his job, our family entered a world of poverty. Behind closed doors, hushed conversations about “how we’re going to pay the bills,” and “what are we going to do about the car?” and “did you hear that Ed’s getting evicted?” happened frequently. My brother and I would be sitting on the couch, where I pretended to watch cartoons, but instead strained my ears to try to know what was going to happen to us.
The practice of mindfulness is an attempt to identify the core negative beliefs that each of us holds, and then to reject them and challenge them. You are not the person those beliefs say you are. You are more than what you were told, or what you heard. It is time to “put away childish things.” How liberating! READ MORE
You’re never going to look back and say to yourself, “I wish I hadn’t been so kind to my children!” Instead, when you’re older, and your children have left to carry on their own lives, you can sit back and smile, knowing that you’ve shown them the way to be the kind of person you admire. READ MORE
If you haven’t watched Big Little Lies yet (which I think you should), you might want to do so before reading this article. I am not holding back on discussing the show in its entirety, even though my primary focus is on domestic violence, and I don’t want to give anything away if you’re planning on watching. That said… READ MORE
Discipline and punishment with children is necessary. However, the goal of punishment is not merely to mete it out. The bigger goal of punishment is to teach your child how you want them to act. READ MORE
The hope of this article is that raising awareness about how PTSD can affect parenting may inspire those who are suffering to seek treatment in an effort to raise their children well, in spite of the struggles they have. READ MORE